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When I think of the ideal relationship—the kind of connection that feels like more than a partnership, something deeper, more fulfilling, and truly motivating—it isn’t just about finding someone to walk through life with. It’s about discovering a relationship that feels like home, that brings out the best in you and makes you want to be a better person every day. A connection that isn’t just supportive but inspiring, a relationship that makes you feel alive.

Now, imagine this: waking up each morning beside someone who, with every look, every touch, every word, seems to say, “I love you more every single day.” What would it be like to experience that, to feel that depth of love and connection as something real, something you can trust? Picture this person not as a dream, but as part of your everyday reality—someone who, just by being there, shifts your whole way of seeing the world.

Before these thoughts settle, let’s pause....

People often come to me with questions like: 

• “I’m killing it at work and crushing my goals, but why can’t I figure out relationships?” 
• “Is something wrong with me? Why can’t I get it right?” 
• “Why are my partner and I always clashing?” 
• “What’s wrong with my partner? Why won’t they even try?” 

Sound familiar? If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions, you’re not alone. I get it. I’ve been there, and I’ll let you in on a little secret: I struggled too.

The Confession: I’ve Been Where You Are

Let me tell you something—I’ve been there. I know exactly what it feels like to be stuck in that frustrating, painful space where nothing seems to work. People assume that because I’m a therapist, I must have it all figured out when it comes to relationships. But let me make a confession: that wasn’t always the case.

You see,...

As a relationship expert, I often get asked, “What’s the biggest red flag I should look out for?”

Most people expect the answer to be something clear-cut: inconsistent communication, avoidance of commitment, or toxic behavior patterns. But what if I told you that the biggest red flag is often something much more subtle and deeply rooted, something we’ve been trained to ignore?

The truth is, the biggest red flag in a relationship isn’t just about what your partner is or isn’t doing—it’s about what your own body is telling you.

(Want to know more about other common red flags? Check out 9 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore.)

Ignoring these subtle signals can create toxic relationship patterns that prevent you from experiencing authentic connection. Let’s explore how listening to your body can guide you toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

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Do you have an anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment style? If you do, how does your attachment style make you feel?

(If you’re not sure what kind of attachment style you have, you can learn more about the 4 main attachment styles right here.)

Your attachment style influences how you approach and navigate relationships, especially in terms of emotional bonding, intimacy, and conflict.

This means that it can shape the type of romantic partner, family member, friend, and parent you are to those you love.

So if you know that you have an insecure attachment style, you might think that you’re doomed to have unhealthy relationships and continuously struggle to feel safe, satisfied, and happy in them.

But do you know what, my dear?

Just because you developed an anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment style as a kid doesn’t mean that you have to have this attachment style forever.

Because there are steps that you can take to develop a more secure attachment...