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When many of my clients first start working with me, there’s something they want out of life that they haven’t been able to achieve or experience.

Some clients are looking for a relationship that makes them feel safe, excited, and loved.

Other clients want to break free from a job or career that leaves them feeling drained every single day.

And there are also clients who just don’t feel happy or fulfilled when they wake up in the morning.

Even though every client is looking for something different, there’s something that unites them: they tend to think that they don’t have the life they want because they just aren’t trying hard enough.

And I don’t blame them.

Because a lot of blogs, self-help books, and social media influencers tell us that we can achieve anything that we want if we just work hard enough at it. And they tell us that if we’re not getting the results we want, it’s because we’re not trying hard enough....

Love comes in many forms. We all know that. But because of what we’ve been taught by pop culture, the retail industry, and even our own friends and family, we tend to believe that there’s an ultimate form of love: the love we share with a romantic partner. In other words, we’ve come to believe that our romantic partner is our one true love.

So if you’ve been struggling to find love with a romantic partner, you might be feeling pretty frustrated. You might be thinking, “Why can’t I ever experience that highest form of love? Why does everyone else seem to be in a great relationship except me?”

How do I know that these are the thoughts that have been running through your mind lately? Because I’ve been there.

You see, I used to think that I was the only woman on Earth who kept making stupid mistakes and falling for the “wrong” guy over and over again. I kept desperately asking myself things like…

“Why me?”

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If you’re happily married or partnered up, you might be looking forward to Valentine’s Day as a chance to celebrate your relationship, eat some decadent chocolate, and enjoy a romantic evening with your love.

But if you’re single, widowed, divorced, or struggling to feel happy in your relationship, you might be dreading it. In fact, you might even be wishing that you could somehow find a time machine that would let you jump straight from February 13 to February 15.

If this is you, I want you to know that I TOTALLY get it.

Because when I got divorced many years ago, I was full of dread leading up to that first Valentine’s Day without my former husband. I was convinced that it was going to be a challenging day full of pain, loneliness, and endless tears.

So if this is how you’re expecting to feel this Valentine’s Day, I want you to know that I’ve been there.

I also want you to know that how you’re feeling is completely normal.

After all,...

No matter who you are and where you live, this is a challenging time. We’re all dealing with a lot of uncertainty and fear of the unknown. And unfortunately, that can often be the perfect recipe for bringing up negative emotions.

After all, if you don’t know what the future has in store for you, you might feel anxious or stressed. And if you’re constantly stressed, it’s easy to get triggered by people or events and end up feeling irritated, angry, or sad. This doesn’t just make it hard to feel happy day-to-day and satisfied with your life. It can also compromise your relationships by making you more irritable and more reactive when interacting with your partner—even if your negative emotions have nothing to do with them.

I know this all too well because it’s something I experienced when my marriage ended and I spent months wallowing in sadness, self-pity, and shame. My emotions definitely affected me and how I felt about myself. But they...

The holidays have been over for only about a month or so. But even if you had time to relax and gear up for the new year, you might not be feeling like your best self right now.

This makes sense. After all, you might be feeling the effects of Earth changes and the energies of the full moon. And on top of all that, there’s still a global pandemic to deal with!

So just like what I hear from my clients, I wouldn’t be surprised if you told me that you’ve been feeling less than stellar these days. For example, you might be…

• extra stressed because you’re going crazy while working from home and trying to supervise remote learning for your kids at the same time
• feeling burned out from always worrying about everyone else’s needs and putting your own on the backburner
• less motivated to chase your dreams because the pandemic has affected your life in big ways and you don’t know when your luck is going to turn around
• especially emotional because...