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When I think of the ideal relationship—the kind of connection that feels like more than a partnership, something deeper, more fulfilling, and truly motivating—it isn’t just about finding someone to walk through life with. It’s about discovering a relationship that feels like home, that brings out the best in you and makes you want to be a better person every day. A connection that isn’t just supportive but inspiring, a relationship that makes you feel alive.

Now, imagine this: waking up each morning beside someone who, with every look, every touch, every word, seems to say, “I love you more every single day.” What would it be like to experience that, to feel that depth of love and connection as something real, something you can trust? Picture this person not as a dream, but as part of your everyday reality—someone who, just by being there, shifts your whole way of seeing the world.

Before these thoughts settle, let’s pause....

What do I hear most often from clients who are struggling with their relationship?

“My partner and I fight all the time!”

In other words, many of the people I work with worry that they and their partner fight too much.

Where do these concerns come from? They’re usually rooted in unrealistic beliefs and expectations that people have about what a “healthy” relationship looks like.

Specifically, like some of my clients, you might think that if a relationship is healthy, you should hardly ever argue with your partner.

Why?

You’ve probably watched movies or read romance novels where the characters who are in love spend their days staring into each other’s eyes, cuddling in bed, and strolling down the street hand-in-hand, not arguing about how to manage their budget or who’s going to drive their kid to basketball practice at 6 a.m.

As a result, you might think that ANY kind of conflict in your relationship is a sign that something is wrong....